We Fell in Love While Swinging

Question: My husband and I got way too close to another couple, now we're in love. What do we do now? We don't live in some family compound or feel like we're weird, yet we are in love with each other.

Two of us are bi, two of us are not, and we both have kids. The truth is, we really love each other and we don't know what to tell the kids, family or even our friends in the lifestyle - we're afraid everyone is going to give us grief.

Answer: After our phone call today, we all came to the exact same conclusion in about 15 seconds - are you guys happy? 

Except for worrying about the outside world, you guys are extremely happy. This is the easiest call in history: Enjoy it.

Seriously, in a world filled with drama, you four are happy, raise your kids like somebody out of a hollywood nanny show, and although you may not have all of the answers, you seem to be far more functional than most people. So, you'll figure it out.

Polyamorous swingers have been around for a long time, yet the relationship dynamics have been poorly understood. Most swingers fear that the security of the primary relationship is too important to risk. This fear is well founded, yet you have dealt with it effectively.

Will this guarantee a life long, stress free relationship? No. There are no such relationship guarantees in life. Yet the four of you have found - stumbled, actually - into a permutation that works for you.

A lot of swingers navigating the waters of of lifestyle relationships have not had it so easy. So, enjoy the happiness you have found and you'll deal with the problems life throws at you as best you can.